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Originally Posted by denisej4
hi I am just working on this question too and I am struggling to think about how I may recognise a parent , who say has depression. Being a parent who has gone through this exact situation ( I had depression ,badly) and I wanted help but was too ill to ask for it.
Also would it be rude to include in my answer about the appearance of the children , meaning , unwashed , dirty clothes diescipline problems ??
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I think if you write that up sensitively, it is a factor that you can sometimes see that something is not right. My setting once notice a child (whose other siblings had also attended) who had always been beautifully turned out, but suddenly 'smelt' of cooking oil, hair unkempt and was 'promptly' shoved in through the door (so we couldn't see/talk to them) we noticed it straight away, but other than that the child seemed fine. We made a note, observed and I happened (made it my business) to catch the 'other' parent on their own (with no other parents around) and spoke to them. I simply asked them how they were, that's all I had to say and they then told me what was happening. I got help for this father and his family and things resumed back as well as they could with support from us and the relevant agencies for all concerned.
Knowing your children and families well, allows you to spot when something is not right.
The other point I'd make is always offering any one privacy by way of other room, or speaking to them/or they contacting the manager at the end of a session/day or after hours - away from others.
If this is offered when they first start, they may feel more comfortable in notifying the setting of any changes. Most parents have felt able to ring to inform us knowing that we all want what's best for their child, but they'll always be someone who is trying to cope (often without support) on their own.
Noticing any difference in a child's appearance/behaviour/emotions etc is vital and relevant to your answer.