Silkysteps early years forum - planning ideas for play - help k3C165 negotiating with Children

Hiya

Negotiation is a tricky one - the way we work some thing out so that both sides are suitably happy !!

I came across this today with trying to get my Ds - he's 8, to keep his T shirt on outside !!

The first step in this negotiation was to ask 'what don't you want to do & why.'

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If it happens to be a nice day and a decision is taken to go outside - one child refuses to go out.
Do you take their hand and lead them out without negotiation or sit with them to find out why they want to stay in.

Negotiating in relation to age and development might possibly come down to the amount of information you think they may already be basing their decisions & actions on... and adapting your responses in accordance.

Using age related language, experience - of the situation, Child & in general you should be able to come to or reach an outcome. .. of some sort :D

I'm not sure what age being able to prompt negotiation begins at ..

It's all good fun !!

hth
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A couple of links:

This is a nice read from chester-le-street.gov.uk- Selby Cottage childcare centre

Quote:

negotiate with children/young people about their needs and preferences and involve them in decision making as appropriate to their stage of development

Source:UKStandards.co.uk Page 3 of

National Occupational Standards for Supporting Teaching and Learning in Schools PDF

This page of Social policy from JFS seems to have a lot in connection with the potential of negotiation .. Parenting and children's resilience in disadvantaged communities