I completely agree, to discuss how and if the first incident needed to be shared is hypothetical, you're now dealing with the aftermath of a colleagues decision. do you know if they explained all the potential reasons for the hit as you have here? The second incident involved leaving a physical mark which would involve the setting's accident & injuries policy, what/when to report and if a keyperson's, parental signatures are required.
What you're after is a balance between focussing on celebrating achievements and managing the negatives/supporting children's positive behaviour. It's also good to know that parents are comfortable coping with the information they're about to be given.
For future occasions can you request a group meeting and raise your concerns? maybe find out why the parent was told so quickly, what your 2 year old progress check covers, work out colleagues expectations for children's behaviour and also when it's felt appropriate to share information in your setting eg. when a parent asks or the situation has caused harm.
Best wishes
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